I have often heard the saying that it’s not always what we say but how we say it that matters. This can be so true and I’ve learned part of that by some of my own life experiences. Sometimes it’s challenging to remember that in the heat of the moment or when you’re relaxed and just chilling with friends and have your guard down. Other times it might not be information that you can share or feel comfortable sharing that is being required of you and you have to think quickly about what to share, how much and in what tone.
This last part has been my concern lately. I am trying to be mindful of what I share, when, with whom, where and so on. It turns out that sometimes my mouth gets to flying as if it has a mind of its own and by the time my brain catches up it’s already too late. Thankfully, it has been nothing really important and it was only about my own business. I almost had to give information on something I’m planning but got saved because rather than waiting on my answer a second question was asked and so I made a choice which of the questions to answer.
What I say has also been a concern because there are times when not everything can be repeated or shared with just anyone. Certain dreams and goals have to be nurtured and kept safe from prying eyes and inquisitive ears. They have to be kept safe so you don’t get overwhelmed by other people’s comments and ideas or discouraged by other people’s thoughts and feelings about your abilities, timing, jealousy, or their insecurities. But in the meantime, while your dreams are covered in the soil, being watered and hoped on, if you don’t see growth and if you can’t talk to someone about it, it can all feel isolating and a bit much.
Deciding what to share, when, with whom and the reason for sharing can really make a difference in how we see things and what happens in life. Sure we all need people in our lives but balance and proper caution are necessary. There will be hiccups and other people may question your level of trust in them but at the end of the day it’s your call. Know the value of your dream and that it may cost you a lot. There may be different routes to get there but don’t let it be that your own actions or inactions aborted your own dream. Believe. Work hard and smart towards it, treasure and protect it and stick with it until it becomes a reality.
“Hope deferred makes the heart sick but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.” – Proverbs 13:12
Let’s talk life. 